Learn to respect yourself before expecting it from out side.This will happen if you are well in command of your own self- your mind ,body and intellect.
A well controlled self will give way to self confidence which will enlighten you and you will be able to take decisions without any stress or pressure. Stress and pressures of any kind,social,self imposed or job related make you heavy and lead to several physiological imbalances.It may be in the form of hypertension,anger,angina,insomnia, indigestion to name a few.
Life is just like driving,you loose your attention for a moment or a wrong judgement and there is bound to be an accident.So you have to be well in command of your own self.Think before you act and not the other way round.Most of us think only after some thing has happened and then the blame game starts.We blame every one and every thing on the planet for our debacle except our own self and the results: I am not loved ,respected and so on so forth.
Start respecting your own self, let you be your own master and see the change in every thing around you.Your face will reflect the grace of a master,inspiring others by his persona.